I figured it was about time for a new ranting or to be modern, a "blog". So, I also figured I'd touch on a subject that not to many people stand with me on. Actually, I would venture to say that many people in my own faith and school disagree with me. Nonetheless, I'm going to write about it. Today's hot topic : Dating.
So I'm sure as a teen you just saw that word and you either grimaced at the thought, or you're curious where I could possibly be going with this. Let me begin by stating what I think about this topic. Dating is good. Dating is fine. Dating is something that should not be taken for granted. While not everyone has the long sought after " boy friend or girl friend" in high school, dating should still be a item for discussion. It is my viewpoint, however, that dating in high school is rarely useful and is only good for the few and far-between. How many people marry their high school sweethearts? Or better yet, how many guys or girls date any less than 3 people throughout high school? Again, the answer is not many at all.
It really is discouraging. Not because someone may have never had a girlfriend or boyfriend throughout their life. What's discouraging is looking around and seeing so many, SO MANY people in relationships that model the ones that aren't even successful in the adult world.
I am a Christian, and very out spoken in my faith. As a Christian, I find it hard to fathom how any Christian can go through high school playing the dating game. Are we not as Christians supposed to fully rely on God in all we do? Does God not promise us that he will provide our necessities for us? I know many of you have heard it, and me saying this is like the "rules assembly" every school has at the beginning of each year. Same ole, same ole. God tells us that we should not be unequally yoked with one another. What does this mean you might say? Simply put, a Christian guy should not date a non-Christian girl. Same applies for a girl dating a non-Christian guy. Along these lines, it is virtually impossible to go into a relationship with a non-Christian with the mindset of " I can change them!" No, you cannot. God can change them. You can do your best in witnessing to them and planting a seed in them, but God is the only one who change them. It is a matter on their heart between them and God.
So what about dating and "exploring your options?" What about waiting until you're mature enough to support and sustain life on your own. What about waiting until you know that God is leading you towards that certain relationship, rather than jump into some random relationship and get all excited when you break your all-time dating streak at 11-Months! Hooray! JUST KIDDING!
11 months is not how long a marriage lasts, and likewise should not be your goal and your center of happiness in your relationship. If America's adults went around saying " Hooray! I have been married for 11 months!" We'd be setting ourselves up for what happens all too often at Roane County High School, Tallwood High School, and any other center for teenagers --- heartbreak.
How can I avoid heartbreak? Well, the way I see it is like this. You can have plenty of fun with other people with out having that meaningless high school ( and practically true "love" lacking" ) relationship. Pray about it! God knows what is best for you! Trust Him!!!!!! He isn't going to leave you out to dry. While it may seem strange to think about and hard to understand at our age, we have much more life ahead of us. Marriage, college, and much more. You can avoid all that meaningless heartbreak in high school relatively easy.
One thing that happens all too often in these high school relationships is either the guy the girl or both, ultimately give their heart up emotionally to one another. While in the relationship this likely feels and sounds good, you're only setting yourself up for heartbreak. When you break up, what happens? The girl goes home and cries, and sometimes the guy does too. They both usually have a hard time coping with the separation that took place. This can all be remedied in one step. Don't give your heart away. Save it, pack it up, and leave it there emotionally until you have prayed about it and are absolutely sure that the person you are with is the one God has planned for you. Sure, at times it may feel like you're "unloved" or you're not getting the most out of high school. Again, this doesn't have to be. You can have a great time without the stress of the "Boyfriend and Girlfriend," or " Going Out!" label.
So am I totally against dating? No, of course not. In my humble opinion, when you are mature enough to make wise decisions with your heart and your mind, and not go through life flowing solely on living life to the fullest and mere emotion, sure going on dates is fine. If the dates go well, then see and pray about pursuing that relationship.
Lastly, I do not think that people who date in high school are dumb. I don't think you're any dumber than myself. I just urge you to make the right decision within that relationship. Is there any edification going on? Are you giving your heart up to someone based solely on emotion. Are you in that relationship just because it's the trend this week? You don't always have to go with the flow. Sometimes, it's best to sit back, ask God what he'd have you to do, pray for your future spouses, and then see what happens.
Peace guys...
my ranting is over =]
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